A day gain from her

Look like I am starting to handle my stress in a correct way. I stress but less frustration. Previously, stress led me to frustration, now stress create my motivation.

After whole day working, settled down. I start my so called "out of work" activities. Erm, first thing, online.... haha, damn normal hobby. I wish my activity would be playing piano, cooking, some sort of talent but not online. I used to be making myself different, how come the reality is making myself no differentiation from society.

Anyway, normally online hardly attract my attention more than hour and straight into my drama world. But not tonight.

Facebook-ed for few second, chatted with a friend who met up recently. Knew her stuff a bit. Ended the conversation. But then, it linked me to her blog which I seldom read through even I saw her status is updated.

I read her blog, I feel her, the words are so sentimental, she is so talent which I wish to own for long time ago. How come last time I read, it doesn't feel the same way? Wondering is it timing matter. Right time, right words, right person, the combination create the feeling towards a person. No wonder love is that matter.

Return the topic to her. She live her life full of meanings and happiness. She is blessed by herself. I read her article one by one non-stop. For her, life is that simple, happy is that simple, there are a lot of quote from her sharing.

I remember some:

1. I'm working but I'm not. (The highest level in workplace which I am trying to achieve too)
2. It's nice to believe that if you find the field where you are naturally gifted, you will be great from day one. (Wondering my own stuff...)
3. IT IS NEVER BE TOO LATE TO BE WHO YOU MIGHT HAVE BEEN ~ George Eliot.
4. 'Smart person learns from people's mistake; normal human learns from their own mistake; idiot never learns!!!'
........

I like to hunt for sentimental article to enhance my inner because I strongly believe your appearance is build from your heart. You are beautiful when you have inner beauty, and vice verse.

Tonight it was a great gain from her sentences because I learned a lot optimistic mind set and what "empty success" is about. Thank you.

疑惑。模糊。徘徊

"如果你在第一份工作里留了个职场的污点，你会怎么做？离开还是补救呢？" 26 Jul'11

打开部落格，打算新增一篇生活小品，没想到看到草稿哪里存有以上标题。它让我疑惑一段时间。

当时我到底做了什么会写下那么一段字呢？当时我是不是低潮期呢？疑惑到底是什么样的错误那么严重会成为污点呢？

努力了几秒，想不起，还是算了，反正不是好事，忘记会比起记得来的更好。

所以说要做什么写什么，应该趁你还记得时完成，不然就会想我这样，彻彻底底的抛诸脑后，无底深渊，翻不回来。哈哈，到底当时我想表达什么呢？自己原来不了解自己。

做人是不是应该先了解自己再去了解别人呢？连自己都搞不懂，怎么够格去了解并批评别人呢！

浏览朋友的部落格，有那么一句，"Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself."

一开始很认同，看多几次，深思几回，开始模糊理解能力，好像是又像不是。看来我还在十字路口。。。

徘徊中。。。

Facilitation Skills Workshop

Just back from training at Penang. Tired but happy that I learned a lot from this course. The course is "Facilitation Skills Workshop". The purpose of this course is to generate facilitator in a company. Wao, I was selected to be trained as a facilitator. Do you know that, I am really happy to be selected as one of the 6 participants among IG.

Since the candidates being selected is listed by our trainer, Miss Loh Soh Mei who is powerful enough to facilitate our CEO, we all curious about how she select us to join the course. One of the participants from PAP asked the question, the answer was we have the criteria of willing to talk, thinkable and smart. When I heard of it, gladness surrounding me at that particular moment.

Before start to introduce the course and my feelings, would like to have some out of topic issue to share. Since the course was conducted in a 5 stars hotel - Traders Hotel by Shangri-la at Penang. It was a very wonderful experience in a 5 stars recognized hotel. Everything from food to bed are excellent. I had a wonderful lunch, every employee and staff are so nice and friendly with smile on their face. I like the feeling to be treated as a very importance customer, they are caring, appear when I really need help. If I have money to spend, I definitely shall use money to stay a week holiday at a such lovely hotel to enjoy these comfortable services. The status is different as you stay at such hotel. OMG, can I experience it one more time?

Okay, back to the topic, when first day reached the course room, it is so big, but only 10 set of chairs and tables were arranged in the middle of the room. Only I realized that, the training was really focusing on individual performance and growing. At the beginning, it really made me scare a bit but it gone once the training started. The environment was totally different. You cannot imagine how relax it is to learn and talk in this 1o students course. It is so free and easy to talk to each other, to share something, to learn something.

Another things surprise me that, our humble SVP (Senior Vice President) joined our training too. Oh, how pleasure to have a learning course together with a top top management. He share a lot of opinion, the ways of expanding network, the ways of handling hard issue, his enjoyable life and lot of knowledge.... really gain a lot from him.

So, what is Facilitator? How to differentiate facilitator with lecturer and teacher? Lecturer and teacher is more on tell while facilitator is more on ask. Former would be more on teach in one way direction for student to learn while the facilitator is more on learning together with the learners. A facilitator actually is metaphor as oil in a machine. You can even cannot seen it in the machine but it actually function well to smoothen the machine and make the machine functioning well.

Why we have to learn the facilitation skills, is it need to give lecture in front of an amount of learner? Nop, we learn and apply it when your daily work, communication, way of building relation with subordinate or manager. I found it applicable to my work. Hopefully it helps me at workplace practically.

At first, I was wondering if I disappointed Soh Mei, then how.... she said, there is no pass and fail in this course. If it is really suit you, then you will do it well, else, just you are not suitable to do it but definitely not a failure. So, no worry... I was wondering is she comfort us with this reason? then we query her, finally she gave a very supporting example. If you really do not suit, but force yourself to do it, then it would end up with loss and failure when u really deal with learners. You cannot facilitate well in the room then for sure you are losing your face. So, if it really not suit you better don't do it as it will protect your weakness from being exposed. So, no fail or pass, just suit or not.

Anyway, here I really sincerely thank you Miss Loh who gave me this opportunity to learn this very useful skill for my workplace and for my life. Thank you so much, I will appreciate your effort to grow us.

Treasure Hunt

After a tired Bangkok journey, next was a treasure hunt by company. First time did this, as a driver, have to really be careful when driving. This is what I learned from this event.

The night is very nice although I didn't eat much due to no food supply. Haha, why no food to eat also consider nice, it is because the program run by our VP is damn funny.

I really never imagine our VP will do such lot of things by himself. Idea, emcee, etc...

The hot environment had been created by him...He was asking some of the top management dance during dinner time, their dance are funny, he was making happiness around the whole area.

Never think that, last car will get awarded with a prize and early bird car will fine with some funny action. But the reason to do so are really accepted. I really cannot forget what he had done for all the employee and he is such a nice guy as a top top management.

There is a surprise. I met a friend's sister... the world is small. I didn't expect that we are working for the same company. How small is the world.

I wish to share all my feelings and matter in this event but I'm lacking of sentence. Anyway, its a good experience to join this event.

生日这回事

10月5号了， 糟糕！我竟然忘记了一位好朋友的生日，还是过了好几天才忆起。
很是怀疑，到底是我开始老了，容易忘记，还是我没有心呢？
不过，我也是很少去记别人的生日的。。。现在想起，我也是个真糟糕的朋友。

讲到这朋友的生日，我就记起当年的不细心而导致别人闲语，最后自己不开心。

可能自己没有什么在乎生日这回事，所以不会特别去庆祝。还好这朋友体贴，明白我。

最后补了封祝福信息，希望他开心。